When you judge others, you're judging yourself.
Judge not lest you be judged. (Bible)
A major advantage of age is learning to accept people without passing judgment.
"Ain't it good to know you've gotta friend?" James Taylor sang, so I interpret Liz Carpenter's observation to mean that age is my friend in learning not to judge. That's good news for me, as I know one of my greatest life lessons is to learn not to judge.
One of the things I know about judging is that it takes the one who judges a great deal of energy and doesn't necessarily affect the one who is judged at all. I shudder to consider how much energy I have wasted over the years in judging others needlessly. It never changes the other person. We canneverchange another person. We can only change ourselves.
Does that then mean we are to judge ourselves? No, however, it is important to realize that what we judge in others is most likely what we cannot see in ourselves...what we will not see in ourselves...what we don't want to acknowledge in ourselves...and so we project it onto others. That way, we can see it and hopefully heal it in ourselves. All too often, though, we don't claim it as our own and so we ignore and deny what needs to be healed in us.
Holy One, When I am quick to judge others, let me stop and look at myself first and see what part of me needs to be healed. Let me display compassion for myself and others, and in this begin the healing process.
Note: Judgement here is not the wise judgement written about by Charles Fillmore as one of the Twelve Powers of Man.